Your wedding day is a significant milestone, and while it's natural to focus on the excitement, many couples reflect afterward and wish they'd done a few things differently. It's been lucky enough to the right at the heart of many weddings and have seen first hand what works and what doesn't. To help you navigate your big day without common pitfalls, here are some frequent wedding regrets and tips on how to avoid them.
1. Not Taking a Moment for Yourselves
I think this is so important. Amid the whirlwind of celebrations, it's easy to get caught up entertaining guests and adhering to schedules. Many couples regret not setting aside a private moment to connect with each other. Consider scheduling a brief escape during the day to soak in the significance of the occasion together. I actually often suggest that right after the ceremony that my couples duck out of the endless line of well wishers (the big-a-thon) and slip away for just a couple of minutes. I will get everyone ready for he confetti or group shots which will give you two just enough time to catch your breath and enjoy a private moment as newlyweds. Awww... so sweet!
2. Forgetting Comfortable Footwear
While those designer heels might look stunning, they can become a source of discomfort as the day progresses. Brides often wish they'd chosen more comfortable shoes or had a backup pair for dancing. Prioritize comfort to ensure you can enjoy every moment without aching feet.
3. Too Many Locations
If you have a medium to large wedding party it's so much easier if everything happens in the same place. There really is so much value in choosing a hotel where everything is taken care of under one roof. You can stay the night before with your close friends and family, hair and make-up will come to your room, when you're ready you just walk down to the ceremony room, from there to the reception room and from there to the dance floor. You don't have to drive anywhere and can pop back to your room anytime to freshen up.
If you do have to move from place to place try to make it as easy as possible for your guests. Maybe hire a coach, make sure there's easy parking, and try to avoid rush hour.
4. Neglecting To Eat And Stay Hydrated
With so much happening, it's common for couples to forget to eat or drink, leading to fatigue. Ensure you have a plan to enjoy your meal and stay hydrated. Assign someone to remind you, or have snacks and water on hand throughout the day.
5. Allowing External Pressures To Influence Decisions
Whether it's family expectations or societal norms, many couples regret not staying true to their desires. Remember, it's your day. Make choices that reflect your personalities and relationship, rather than trying to please everyone else.
6. Not Having A Backup Plan For Weather
Outdoor weddings are beautiful, but they're at the mercy of the elements. Some couples regret not having contingency plans for bad weather. Always have an alternative ready, whether it's a tent, indoor venue, or umbrellas, to ensure the day goes smoothly regardless of conditions.
7. Following Photographic Fads
If you spend any time on Instagram, TikTok, or Pinterest, you’ll be bombarded with all sorts of wedding photography trends—some great, some not so much. Blurred-action shots, for example, are meant to add movement and emotion, and when used sparingly, they can work well. But I’ve seen some terrible blurry first-kiss photos that just look… well, awful! If a trend takes away from the moment rather than enhancing it, it’s probably not worth following.
Trends come and go. Years ago, spot colouring was all the rage—turning a photo black and white while keeping just one element, like the bouquet, in colour. It was the height of cool in the ‘90s, but now, couples look back and cringe. That’s the risk with following passing fads.
My approach is simple: I want you to look back at your wedding photos in 20, 30, or 40 years and still love them. There’s a way to photograph a wedding that feels fresh and modern but still stands the test of time. That’s always my goal.
8. Letting The Schedule Get Too Packed
Also, trying to fit too much into one day can make everything feel rushed. Whether it’s too many group photos, multiple locations, or back-to-back speeches, overloading your schedule can leave you exhausted. Prioritise what really matters and leave breathing room in your timeline. It's lovely to feel we are always on top of the schedule rather than running slightly (or a lot) behind.
9. Forgetting To Assign A Point Person
Being the go-to person for every question can be overwhelming. Some couples regret not designating a trusted friend or coordinator to handle queries and minor issues. This allows you to focus on enjoying the day without constant interruptions. I will help as much as I can, but having someone to sort things on your behalf means you two can just enjoy your day to the most.
10. Stressing About The Speeches
Please don't stress about the speeches. If you are worried my advice is first, do the speeches before the wedding breakfast as soon as everyone has sat down, that way they are done and you can relax and enjoy your food! Second, keep them short! Brevity always wins. If you are not a naturally funny person, don't feel you have to be. Just use your speech as a chance to welcome everyone and thank them for being here. It really doesn't need to be a production. And third, whatever you say, say it from the heart. Be real and authentic - that's that resonates.
By being aware of these common regrets, you can plan proactively to ensure your wedding day is as joyful and memorable as possible. Remember, while perfection is unattainable, thoughtful planning can help you create a day you'll look back on with no regrets.
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